How to keep your partner involved in your relationship? How to keep the love spark alive and your relationship passionate? When we fall in love our critical faculties (no matter which star sign we belong to) switch off for around 18 months, so psychologists say, before reactivating with a bang. This is when some people find themselves in trouble because the passion just seems to fizzle out. But is it possible to keep the pilot light lit way beyond this? Quite possibly, and if you know what buttons to press, according to your partner’s sun sign.
Astrology helps you recognise the signs that your other half is losing their interest and help you rekindle the flame in your relationship, devoting yourself to the goal of becoming one with them.
The best way to rekindle the flame in your relationship
In long-term relationships, it is often the case that the initial spark fades and our significant other’s attraction to us starts to wane despite their love for us. Of course, this can also happen to us. When it happens to us though, we know what to do to revive our passion for our other half. The question is, what can we do when it is our partner’s desire for us that begins to dwindle? Can we rekindle the flame in our relationship when our partner seems to have lost interest in us? The answer is yes, we can! Here are a few tips on how to reignite the passion in your relationship, based on your significant other’s zodiac sign!
As the first of the fire signs this is a naturally sparky sign, but even they hit a wall sometimes and lose interest in the physical side of life. Aries doesn’t do anything that it doesn’t want to, so if they suspect a plot is afoot involving you trying to re-inflate their ardour, they’ll rail against it. You have to box clever here, and mix things up with something spontaneous. Or do something yourself and watch them come running. This is a sign that hates to be left out, and hates to think you’re having fun without them.
If your Aries appears to be losing interest in you, it’s time to take action! Shower them with unexpected little gifts, find ways to surprise them, and make your presence felt as much as possible. Plan an evening for two; create a romantic atmosphere by lighting some candles and having soft, sensual music playing in the background. Let them surrender in your arms. If you manage to pull them back into your world, you will get to experience nights of endless passion!
Taurus also likes to feel that they are Number One in your life, and so lavishing them in lots of attention is often a sure-fire way to win them back round. This is a sign that remains pretty unflappable, and so it may appear that they are indifferent or couldn’t give two hoots. Don’t be fooled, as this bravado often conceals an underground bunker full of emotion.
Taurus is famous for their love of sensory pleasures, and there are few things in life they appreciate more than good food! Food and sensuality are therefore two great ways to get the bull back to its best. If you’re a good cook and your Taurus’ passion for you has started to wane, it’s time for you to put your cooking skills to use. Buy a good bottle of wine, put on something sexy (theirs is a very sensual sign!), create an erotic atmosphere, prepare their favorite dish and… invite them to dine with you like you’ve never dined with each other before. Before you know it, the two of you will be in bed, burning up the sheets!
Boredom can sound the death knell for Gemini, so staving it off is crucial. Their attention can wander, and this can make you feel out in the cold at times. Anyone who loves a Gemini therefore needs to have a lot of self-assurance – which is why many of them end up with Taurus. Allowing Gemini to flirt, yes as bizarre as it sounds, and not taking it too seriously, is key. Gemini finds secure and intelligent people amazingly attractive. Anything too demanding is off limits. They also respond best to sitting down and talking things through.
Gemini’s desire for their significant other starts to dwindle when they realize the latter doesn’t share their intellectual interests. Gemini likes their partner to be cultivated and sharp-witted. So if your Gemini is no longer as attracted to you as they used to be, start delving into philosophy and discussing your readings with them. You can also plan a trip to an archaeological site and impress them with your knowledge. And don’t forget to keep them mentally stimulated in bed as well!
Cancer puts a hell of a lot of energy into relationships, but this is also a sign that retreats when it feels hurt or threatened. If things have become monotonous, then you can slowly win Cancer back round, but you’d better be prepared to be patient, as this is a sign that won’t be rushed or back down easily when they think they’re right. They can also be quite stubborn, but they do like the attention that comes with someone trying to woo them to fall in love all over again.
These crazy kids are very sensitive. Extremely so, to be precise. Their mood swings are legendary; it takes a psychic to figure out what’s going on in their heads or what they may have taken to heart! Chances are you’ve already come to terms with your Cancer’s moody temperament, so you might as well dance to their tune. Watch a rom-com with them and ask them how it made them feel. Encourage them to open up to you. Or plan a short trip for the two of you and make them feel like they have the upper hand in your relationship.
Has your Leo become too somber? Or irritable? If yes, then there’s a good chance it’s because they’ve started losing interest in you. There’s also a good chance they will try to rekindle the flame in your relationship themselves by initiating sex with you. But don’t leave it all to them! Perhaps a little more imagination is one way to boost any flagging ardour. Make a reservation for two at a (preferably fancy) restaurant and show them they are the center of your universe. Let them know you only have eyes for them. And don’t forget to buy them their favorite fragrance!
Also, if Leo ever looks a bit crestfallen then it’s usually down to wounded pride, and this can be a sulky sign. Leos are suckers for flattery and ego massage, although they also like to feel like they are the ones who are in charge. So when you take them out for dinner, and let your Leo partner pick up the bill.
If your Virgo’s attraction to you has started to wane, it’s probably because you have stopped paying attention to their needs, and this has made them feel neglected. Things aren’t looking good… In order to reignite their passion for you, you need to be patient and genuinely invested in your relationship with them. Appeal to their artistic sensibilities by taking them to the opera – even if you hate opera! You’ll find your way back into their arms if you find ways to keep them intellectually stimulated.
One of the best ways to keep Virgo interested is by keeping them busy. Odd jobs around the house, entering them for the London Marathon, or encouraging them to take up a hobby are all things to consider. Giving them plenty of space is also a requirement for long-term love, as they do like time alone pottering about. Being a Mercurial sign, like Gemini, and an earth sign, these are also people who need plenty of mental as well as physical stimulation.
Has your Libra started losing interest in you? Maybe the reason for their waning passion is that you’ve let yourself go (they hate it when you do that) or that your social life as a couple is going downhill. Chances are your Libra won’t just sit back and watch your relationship crumble, but don’t let them do all the heavy lifting by themselves. Take initiative. Start taking care of your appearance and rediscover the joys of socializing. Go out with friends and ask your Libra to join you. Make them feel part of your life and show them you feel safe when they’re around.
Libra is the most romantic sign of them all, but they still need some encouragement. Their interest can wander if they feel unloved, and like a depressed parrot, they start to lose interest in their personal appearance. If this happens then you can encourage them to take more pride in their appearance, then they will become a lot more interested in more intimate matters.
Feel like your Scorpio is hiding something? Are they growing apart from you? Are they neglecting your relationship? Then something’s definitely up! You need to figure out why things have come to this and own any mistakes you may have made. Have you stopped paying attention to their needs? Have you been turning them down for sex a lot? (Hopefully not – there’s only so much they can take!) You also need to reassure them that there’s no one else in your life; Scorpio is notorious for their tendency to suspicion and, well… you can’t go on together with suspicious minds!
Scorpio rarely surrenders so it might fall to you to end the cold war. Feelings run deep, and this is a stubborn sign with a sadistic streak if they think they have been wronged. So if you’re in the doghouse for something that you have done wrong, then you’d better make yourself comfortable. They will eventually come round, and physical intimacy is often the best way to make up instead of endless hours of chat.
Sagittarius is hardly a stranger to long-term relationship fatigue. They see love as a game and get easily bored. They are constantly on the lookout for new romantic adventures. So here’s what you need to do to rekindle your Sagittarius’ interest in you: Take them on a trip to a faraway land so you two can take a break from routine together. If your finances don’t allow for a journey abroad, there are many places in the country for you to explore. Embark on an adventure and share new experiences with them – and take your imagination with you!
Sagittarius may be the sign of freedom and the shyest of commitment, but this is also a moral sign. It likes to feel that things are secure at home, even if they aren’t at home much. If this sign spends inordinately long times away working, travelling or crusading, then they perhaps need reminding of their other responsibilities. Excess can sometimes be a symptom of a restless Sagittarian.
Have you been neglecting them lately? Have you stopped paying attention to their needs? Have you let the drudgery of everyday life drag your relationship down? Have you stopped asking them how things are at work? Then there’s a good chance your Capricorn has started growing apart from you. In order to reignite the passion in your relationship, you need to be supportive and understanding of their heavy workload, and let them know you’re there for them. Use your sense of humor to help them look at things in a more light-hearted way and make them forget about their problems for a while. And, of course, take initiative in bed!
The pendulum can often swing too far towards work, and this can be the biggest passion killer going. Capricorn can sometimes do with reminding that a relationship needs work too. They can be shy in terms of intimacy and so it could be up to you to get things moving in the right direction once more. This sign does have a voracious sexual appetite, but things can falter in this department if they are stressed at work.
Less is more with this sign. Anything that even resembles a sit down serious conversation leaves them cold. Preserving your own individuality and independence can be one way to re-ignite their interest. This is after all a perverse sign, and a stubborn one, so one whiff of control has them running for cover. They like to feel that they are the ones that are running the show.
You don’t have to do much to rekindle your Aquarius’ attraction to you; you just need to make sure that whatever you do is out of the ordinary! Aquarius tends to get easily bored, so try to keep your Aquarius on their mental toes. Make them feel like you’re not only their romantic partner, but also their friend – someone with whom they can share their thoughts without hesitation. Above all, avoid becoming clingy and find ways to remind them that they shouldn’t be taking you for granted; if they realize they might lose you to someone else, they’ll do everything they can to keep you.
Does your Pisces seem to be preoccupied with something lately? Maybe it’s your fault. Have you been turning down their invitations to join them in their fantasy world? Even worse, do you keep calling them back to reality? Why would do such a thing?!
Pisces can get so lost in love that they lose sight of who their partner is, so it doesn’t harm to remind them of your needs from time to time. If your Pisces’ interest in you has started to wane, try to inject a little imagination into your relationship; make them feel like fairytales have nothing on your love story! And, of course, do not underestimate the importance of good sex! Intimacy is very important to this sign, particularly foot massages, and they also pick up on non-verbal cues more than other signs. Turn the romance up a few (hundred) notches. Therefore it’s important not to sit and brood, but to have open and honest conversation before things go beyond the point of no return.